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« on: April 27, 2007, 06:53:59 PM »

I've read an article written by Ms. Julie Yap-Daza and it intrigged me a lot.

It was a about a book that she wrote entittled "Etiquette of a Mistress"

For a conservative and catholic country this is unacceptable. Having another wife, or a number 2, a nuber 3, and so on and so forth. Not unless the guy is a Muslim.

Julie Yap-Daza wrote that mistresses should have a rights in this country. She told the readers what a mistress should do, how a mistress can ensure her childrens future (if they will have any)

She also empahazed that we should have a annulment be legalized here in the Philippines. That annunlment not being legalized is one of the reasons why our country find Progress hard to achieve..

Now, how should we Look at Mistresses? I knew a lot of them, I befreind some, i hate some. My step father used to have one, and i tried to court his Mistress and i won her over. Exactly how I plan to revenge.

But should we respect them?
How should we treat them?
Should we blame them for wrecking a family?
Is their fault? (yeah i know. It takes two to tango)
Or are they juct victims?
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« Reply #1 on: April 27, 2007, 10:57:04 PM »

they have the same rights as anybody else but rest assuredly they can't have the same rights as the wife.
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« Reply #2 on: April 28, 2007, 01:11:27 AM »

how did an annulment program became directly associated to pogress? i think she's heavily blurred by western neo-liberalization...sheeesh...

and the one about the muslims is total ignorance...even they are prohibited by the koran to marry multiple wives...being polygamous in their part is just plain tradition...yun lang yun...
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« Reply #3 on: April 29, 2007, 03:14:43 AM »

They should be put to death, all of them. They are the cause of broken families. I should know... I have a step sister.
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« Reply #4 on: April 29, 2007, 05:30:24 PM »

@ DA: she wrote that having annulment lagalized in the Philippines will help us though progress, dahil kung meron nun, walang kawala ang mga tatay na gawa ng gawa ng anak sa sustento, at nakalimutan ko shocks! teka hanapin ko ulet yung article na yun Cheesy tsuri Cheesy and i think it'll be a good way para sa maayos na closure sa mga nasisirang mag-asawa.


@ Sage: ang harsh naman, be in their shoes, Sino ba naman gusto manira ng pamilya? Im not defending them. Pero hindi mo ba naisiip na BIKTIMA rin sila? I've been in your situation, my step dad used to have a mistress, and that makes really really mad.. with my step dad, with the mistress, well a little..
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« Reply #5 on: April 30, 2007, 12:24:24 AM »

ang alam ko may annulment na dito eh, divorce ang wala pa...anu't anupaman, mananatiling elitistang programa yan dahil sa mahal ng pagkuha ng abugado at sa mahal ng pagsustain sa proseso...natural makagagawa ng paraan ang gobyerno para maipakilala ito sa mga lower classes at sa mga nasa below the poverty line (ngunit may maliit na tsansa dahil pa rin sa usaping pinansiyal)...at tandaan natin na more than 60% ang mga lower classes natin...kung humigit kumulang 30% lang ang talagang papakinabangan ang programa sa hanggang kasukdulan nito, dun pa lang ay hindi na tamang sabihin na isa itong tuntungan tungo sa progreso...

ganito, ano ba sa paniniwala niya ang mga mistress? sa pagtutukoy nito, matutukoy din ang kanyang mga karapatan at ang mga batas na dapat ipasa kung meron man...kung proteksyon sa kanya, merong single parent act...kung tungkol naman sa karapatan ng anak niya, mayroong child protection law at mayroon din atang nakabinbin na batas sa kongreso tungkol sa mga rights ng illegitimate children...kung may mga batas pang kulang sa pagsuporta sa mga karapatan nila bilang tao, ipasa..pero kung ang batas ay para sa pagiging mistress at kung ang naturang batas ay hahantong sa pagbibigay hustisya sa pagkakaroon ng mistress, naku, magiging taliwas ata yun sa pagkakaroon ng family code...

karamihan sa mga kongresista may mga kabit eh...kaya yung 2nd representative ng CIBAC eh nag-introduce ng isang programa sa kanilang mga kongresista na tinatawag na "report a mistress" kung saan itetrace kung sino ang mayroong kabit sa kanila...sinet-up ang programang yun dahil sa paniniwalang "corruption is done in the name of family"...kung mas madami nga naman ang "pamilya" nila kesa sa inaasahan, hindi malayong mas malaki din ang nanakawin nila para makapagsustento...paano na lang kung halimbawa ay illegalize ang divorce, edi lalaki gastusin ng mga magnanakaw sa gobyerno...  Cheesy pero pag nakasuhan sila ng bigamy, yung mga pamilya naman nila yung kawawa...  Cheesy Cheesy
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« Reply #6 on: April 30, 2007, 09:39:22 AM »


@ Sage: ang harsh naman, be in their shoes, Sino ba naman gusto manira ng pamilya? Im not defending them. Pero hindi mo ba naisiip na BIKTIMA rin sila? I've been in your situation, my step dad used to have a mistress, and that makes really really mad.. with my step dad, with the mistress, well a little..

Well in the very least this kind of behavior should not be encouraged. It's not their fault? Were they under outside pressure when they consented to adultery, knowing that in the process, she would not only jeopardize a marriage but also wreck the lives of innocent children? In the first place if they were smart enough to know that the relationship they would get involved in would only cause damage, then they wouldn't have allowed their personal emotions get in the way. LOVE? or just the fact that being a mistress is the way they get their kicks? Balderdash and fiddlesticks!!! Angry
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« Reply #7 on: April 30, 2007, 10:25:20 AM »

regarding the general question... look at them as human beings. i try not to judge them by that stupid decision they have made but as they are as people. granted, i don't deal much with them. it was their choice to pursue that kind of situation, let them try to work out how to survive about it
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« Reply #8 on: April 30, 2007, 10:45:49 AM »

a person's child to a mistress has a right to allowance from his father but the mother has no right whatsoever. that's i think a bit unfair. tsaka pano yung mga lalakeng kabit?

to answer the question: look at them just like how you look at your mother. they oftentimes become mothers too. they love their children just like how your mother loves you. oo, nagkaroon din ng kabit ang tatay ko so alam ko rin ang pakiramdam.
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« Reply #9 on: April 30, 2007, 10:28:58 PM »

MISTRESS YUNG MGA ALAM NA MAY PAMILYA NA NGA NILALANDI PA!! BIKTIMA YUNG MGA WALANG KAALAM ALAM NA MAY ASAWA NA PALA YUNG NAGPAIBIG SA KANILA!! DAPAT KUNDENAHIN YUNG MGA KUMAKABIT!! HINDI KASI LAHAT NG KUMAKABIT AY LOVE ANG DAHILAN!! YUNG KARAMIHAN IBA ANG MOTIBO!! BAHALA NA SILA KUNG ANO YUN!! PERA ANG KADALASAN!! PERO SIGE!! HINDI LAHAT! KUNG MATINO KANG ASAWA BAKIT KA HAHANAP NG KABIT?! HA? IBANG PUTAHE?! HA?! KALOKOHAN!! MAKIPAGHIWALAY KA NA KUNG AYAW MO!! WAG KANG MANLOKONG HAYOP KA!!
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« Reply #10 on: May 03, 2007, 08:02:00 AM »

a person's child to a mistress has a right to allowance from his father but the mother has no right whatsoever. that's i think a bit unfair. tsaka pano yung mga lalakeng kabit?

to answer the question: look at them just like how you look at your mother. they oftentimes become mothers too. they love their children just like how your mother loves you. oo, nagkaroon din ng kabit ang tatay ko so alam ko rin ang pakiramdam.

(insert curse word here) The similarity between our lives is uncanny.

Regarding your question, what if the father did it? I think its called concubinage? *I'm a little nonplussed*, are we talking about a mother who became an adulteress here? or just mistresses per se?
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« Reply #11 on: May 03, 2007, 08:25:36 AM »

(insert curse word here) The similarity between our lives is uncanny.

Regarding your question, what if the father did it? I think its called concubinage? *I'm a little nonplussed*, are we talking about a mother who became an adulteress here? or just mistresses per se?

i'm not asking what is it called. ang gusto kong malaman eh bakit parang pag lalake ang nagloko tanggap ng lipunan? double standards? it's one thing i hate. unfortunately, mukang hindi na maalis yun. all i can do is say "hayz"
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« Reply #12 on: May 03, 2007, 08:53:38 AM »

Yup double standard talaga tayo sa Pinas. Philander ang karamihan sa mga tatay satin. di nila alam kung paano maging isang tatay.
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« Reply #13 on: May 04, 2007, 07:49:14 PM »

Thats one of the things that i really cant understand..

When nit is a man who commit the act of having another woman in his commited life, oit seems accepteble.. "beacuse they're the men.. they have needs.. they are prone to temptetion..blah..blah..blah.."

But when it comes to women, We tend to make it sound and look morbid.. Huh
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« Reply #14 on: May 05, 2007, 07:52:03 AM »

...kawawa lang naman kasi yung nabiktima, at walang kaalam alam na yung kanyang minamahal ay may asawa na pala. si lalake kasi...at ngayun madadamay sa kaguluhan si babae na inosente. hay.
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